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  • Writer's pictureJustin Tilghman, Ph.D.

The Art of Decision Making

Decision-making is an integral part of our lives, with choices related to our careers, relationships, finances, and personal growth shaping our futures. This blog post delves into the art of confident decision-making, offering practical strategies and insights to help you make empowered choices that align with your values, goals, and aspirations. We'll also examine common decision-making pitfalls and provide valuable resources to enhance your decision-making skills.

Steps to Confident Decision Making

1. Clarify your Core Values

Understanding your values and priorities forms the foundation of confident decision-making. Begin by gaining clarity on what truly matters to you. Identify your core values and long-term goals, which will serve as guiding principles when making decisions.

2. Do Your Research

Equipped with a clear understanding of your values, start gathering information. To make an informed decision, gather as much relevant data as possible. Do research, talk to friends, family, and experts, and collect information to help you make a well-informed choice.

3. Evaluate Your Options

Analyzing your options is the next step in the decision-making process. Narrow down your choices to a manageable number, carefully considering the pros and cons of each. Weigh the potential risks and benefits, and assess how each option aligns with your values and priorities. Don't forget to evaluate them based on your values and priorities as well.

4. Consult Your Intuition

Sometimes, your intuition can offer valuable insights. If you've done your research and weighed your options but still feel uncertain, try tapping into your intuition to guide your decision. Trust your gut feelings, but ensure they're grounded in thoroughly understanding the situation. Also, I recommend that you never lead off with this step!

5. Set A Deadline

Procrastination can be the enemy of confident decision-making. Set a deadline for making your choice to avoid falling into this trap. This will help prevent analysis paralysis and encourage you to take decisive action.

6. Commit To Your Decision

Once you've made a decision, commit to it wholeheartedly. Trust that you've made the best choice based on your values, priorities, and available information.

7. Learn And Be Flexible

Remember that even with the best decision-making process, not every choice will pan out as planned. Embrace these experiences as learning opportunities and use the insights gained to improve your decision-making skills in the future.

Avoiding Common Decision-Making Pitfalls:

As you hone your decision-making skills, be aware of common pitfalls hindering your progress. Here are some tips to avoid these traps:

  1. To combat decision fatigue (making too many choices at once), simplify your choices, delegate decisions when possible, and take breaks to recharge your mental energy.

  2. Counteract confirmation bias (only seeking out those sources that align with your thought process) by actively seeking diverse perspectives and information that challenge your assumptions. Be open to changing your mind when new evidence arises.

  3. Avoid the sunk cost fallacy (the idea that I've already put too much into this, so I can't change) by focusing on potential future outcomes and benefits rather than dwelling on past investments.

  4. To combat overconfidence bias (overestimating your abilities), regularly seek feedback from others, challenge your assumptions, and stay open to learning from your mistakes.

ResourcesTo Help

  1. "Pursuing Your Purpose" by Justin Tilghman - This is my book, and it's incredibly practical and straightforward in helping you think through your core values and how to live into them.

  2. "Thinking, Fast and Slow" by Daniel Kahneman - This book delves into the psychology of decision-making, offering valuable insights for making more rational choices.

  3. "Decisive: How to Make Better Choices in Life and Work" by Chip and Dan Heath - A practical framework for making more effective decisions, filled with real-world examples and case studies.

  4. TED Talk "How to Make Hard Choices" by Ruth Chang - An engaging presentation discussing a fresh perspective on approaching difficult decisions.

  5. Work with a Life Coach - A qualified professional can provide personalized guidance and support to help you develop your decision-making skills.

Wrapping Up

Confident decision-making is a skill that can be developed and improved over time. By implementing the strategies in this blog post and continually reflecting on your choices, you'll become more adept at navigating life's challenges and making decisions that align with your values and aspirations. Embrace the opportunity to create the life you desire through confident decision-making.

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Justin is a Board Certified Advanced Life Coach with the Board of Christian Life Coaching, a division of the International Board of Christian Care and the American Association of Christian Counselors. He has demonstrated knowledge and application of biblical integration in coaching, the ICCA and ICF Core Competencies, the Code of Ethics, and the ICF definition of coaching.


Justin is a Board Certified Master Mental Health Coach with the Board of Mental Health Coaching, a division of the International Board of Christian Care and the American Association of Christian Counselors. He has demonstrated knowledge and application of biblical integration in providing ethical and competent mental health coaching.

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